People, especially the parents, should
learn the difference between dictating and guiding.In some recent turns of
events I am being acutely aware of the fact that most of them molded the idea
of guiding in their own whims.
All his life the child has been dictated by his/her parents and he thought it is good to abide by them. Suddenly he eavesdrops
that he is too immature and does not know how to take any decisions, even he doesn't know what he likes. Yeah, he gains that miraculous piece of knowledge from his
parents. He felt anger burning in him but he couldn't say a thing. He couldn't understand
for what the anger arises. He had always been told what he could love but
nobody ever told him what he might hate. He knows perfectly well what he cannot
do but has no clue about what he can. He was never taught how to shout at
things he might find mean. And he sensed the feeling, which he is pretty well acquainted
with, overwhelming himself. He felt helpless just like the other days. He
wanted to scream at someone at something but instead he screeched burying his
face in the pillow all night. He kept up a brave face but if one watches closely
can see sullenness gleaming in his eyes. And the sullenness grew darker each
day. You can find a part of him in the numb souls that love their gloomy room,
that don’t talk to anybody else and that have ever visited a therapist.
“ And so,
Because some place,
Somewhere,
At sometime,
Somebody,
Told him,
He couldn't fly,
He never tried.
He had huge,
And beautiful,
Brown and white wings,
That is true………
…One day,
He even forget he had wings,
Forever and ever,
Amen.”
- Salena 'Saliva' Godden
